When you enter outpatient detox and begin your recovery journey, it can be hard to trust yourself to make the right decisions for the future. After all, you’ve obviously made some bad decisions in the past – that’s how you got in this position to begin with. Fortunately, you’re in a completely different place now, and you can and will learn to have faith in yourself. Here’s how.
Let Go of the Past
Now that you’ve entered outpatient detox and started your journey of recovery, there’s no point in beating yourself up about the mistakes of the past. What’s done is done. You are not the same person you were when you made those poor choices.
Your past does not define you, and you don’t have to let it define your future, either. Anything is possible. From now on, you will live your life to the fullest. Give yourself the chance to start anew. You deserve it.
Take It One Day at a Time
There’s a reason they tell people in 12-Step meetings to take things one day at time. When you’re new to recovery, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that you should accomplish everything, now, all at once. When you fail – which you will – you’ll fall into despair and maybe you’ll give up on outpatient detox altogether.
You don’t have to do your whole recovery all at once – and you can’t. Do the work that’s in front of you. Each new day will bring another success – whether that’s having a breakthrough in therapy, reaching some level of domestic peace with your spouse, negotiating a more manageable workload with your manager, or simply getting through the day with your sobriety and mental health intact. Each day that you stay on the path of recovery is a victory. Celebrate it.
It’s Okay to Need Help
Hey, we all need some help sometimes. Not a single one of us gets through life all alone – all of us need support, assistance and encouragement from other humans. Don’t be afraid to ask for that support.
It’s normal to feel emotionally raw and vulnerable when you first enter outpatient detox. Other recovering addicts have been there, and they understand. Talk about your feelings to your 12-Step group or therapy group. Lean on your sponsor. Ask your loved ones for their understanding and give them practical steps they can take to help you get through this emotional time.
You might feel uncertain about opening up to your loved ones. Of course, they already know why you’ve entered outpatient detox – they’ve been there through all of your previous misadventures. But opening up emotionally to those you care about gives you the opportunity to strengthen your relationships with these people. When you bring up the subject of your feelings and fears, you also give your loved ones the opportunity to voice their own concerns, and you can offer one another your mutual support.
Make Goals and Work Toward Them
Regaining self-respect is a matter of taking action to build the life you want. Now that you’ve entered outpatient detox, you can think clearly about what you want for your life in the future. Make a list of the things you want for your life and the things you want to achieve.
Start by listing things you can achieve in the short term. Going to work every day, staying sober for a month, going to 12-Step meetings every day, exercising three to five times a week, and eating nutritious meals are all some worthy examples. As you achieve these goals, you’ll build self-confidence, and you can begin to add some longer-term goals to your list. Such goals might include staying sober for a year, going back to school and earning a degree, buying a home, getting a promotion or losing 20 pounds.
Will Your Loved Ones Trust You Again?
If you’re like many people in outpatient detox, you’re just as concerned about others trusting you again as you are about trusting yourself again – perhaps even more so. Rest assured that your loved ones will trust you again, but it will take time. You will have to maintain your sobriety and actively work to improve yourself for months or even years before your loved ones will come to trust you again.
When you enter addiction treatment, the prospect of trusting yourself to make healthy decisions can be scary. As you work toward your long-term sobriety and begin to heal from the scourge of addiction, you will find that self-trust and self-respect come more and more easily.